-=> Quoting Kathryn Wallo to Michael Holt <=-
 KW> What is your relationship to the one(s) being searched for? If it is
 KW> one of your siblings or your birthfather then it may be appropriate...
 KW> if you just know someone who is a birthmother and you want to find her
 KW> child even though she doesn't want you to, then that would be
 KW> intruding ... I know it can be tempting, but it is not fair to her or
 KW> to the adoptee.. 
Actually, it's a birthmother I know....she has said that she really
doesn't want her son to find his father -- who, it seems, really IS all
those things that angry women assert about the man who left them.  But,
after she lost a child recently (died at age 19), she's said more and more
often that she doesn't want to know that surrendered son; I feel that this
is really a desire to know what happened to him.
But I did promise that I'd not find him without her permission.
  
 MH> Try me at mholt@freenet.vcu.edu first.
 KW> My VCU account is being changed this weekend... new system and I will
 KW> not  be able to use it until mon... I am not even sure what my new
 KW> address will be ... I think kwallo@atlas.vcu.edu ... by the way how do
 KW> you ever even get on the freenet? all I ever got was busy tones
*sigh*  "Engineers just LOVE to change things."  -- Dr. McCoy.  I hope
it's working by now.
You have to be persistant when you try to get on the Freenet.  I found
that calling about 10 am worked well, and about 1 pm.  And, of course, 
at those ungodly times during which no reasonable person is awake.
  
Hey, when a baby is to be adopted at birth, does the baby have the
hospital bracelet removed and replaced with something without the
child's name?  If so, does the birth mother keep it?  (I think my
two had plastic bracelets marked with the pediatrician's name,
the date of birth and "BG [or BB] Holt.")
  
 KW> ... "File Not Found"...what computers and adoption agencies both say!!
At least, with computers it's a simple statement and not a judgement.
... Proof of genetic randomness: my adoptive family is normal.
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