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From: Barbara_McNay@f48.n382.z1
Date: Fri, 06 Jan 2006 13:06:47 -0500
Subject: Stupidity 101
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 > This is an email reply to George wrt my getting into a
 > group he
 > invited me into and I was accepted but must wait to
 > receive my ID code
 > via snail mail. (I think the group is based in Canada
 > and I'm not. T
 > his could explain the delay.)

 > ....
 > oh well thanks [about the post George sent me where
 > the group manager
 > explains delays could take up to six months(!)]. Why
 > does it take so
 > long? I mean there's other things you can sign up for
 > where you don't
 > have to wait a year. I wonder.

 > Anyway George I'd like to present something there. I'm
 > burning to do
 > this and it frustrates me no end I have to WAIT
 > forever to do it. :(

 > I want to address this problem we are all too
 > painfully well aware
 > of. (having our disability used as a 'cause' for a
 > problem that would
 > occur just as likely for/with the non disabled....)

 > Case to point. Ten years ago when my daughter was ten,
 > she had two
 > friends aged 8 (identical twins) over our house on a
 > daily basis. For
 > nearly all my life I have 'watched' kids and never had
 > anything
 > happen. Now at this time seeing how I had lost my
 > hearing the ignorant
 > mother of these twins didn't want them to go into our
 > new above ground
 > pool because ... as she said to my daughter, "your
 > mother can't
 > hear'.. I wish I had set this ignorant (bleep)
 > straight! But I was too
 > angry and in fact I'm still angry about this incident.
 > People are so
 > effingly stupid you know?

 > I would have said to her. I'd like to educate you on a
 > couple points.
 > First off I can SEE. SEcond off, if you ever watch
 > Rescue 911, all
 > those kids falling into pools are the children of
 > HEARING parents!

The truth of the matter is, people are not constantly attentive, regardless of
their disabilities or lack of them. The mother failed to consider that hearing
parents can be inattentive; as for you, you would have to remain with your eyes
glued nonstop to three children for a half hour, an hour, or two hours, and the
mother correctly understands that that ain't going to happen.  A lot can happen
in "just a few seconds." Her children are ultimately her responsibility, after
all, and she would be negligent if she allowed them to use a pool under
circumstances that she felt were unsafe--regardless of the facts.

 > But ooooh no I stayed quiet because if I hadn't
 > perhaps the bleep
 > wouldn't let her darlings come to our house at all and
 > this would
 > upset my daughter. People are so blasted (bleeping )
 > STUPID!

 > I know I can post it in Abled in Fido. Gee didn't have
 > to wait more
 > than a day to get in there.

 > PS:how would YOU have handled this situation? Is it
 > RUDE to correct
 > the rude. The ignorant? WHy is it rude to correct the
 > ignorant?