In a msg on , Margaret Collins of 1:382/1009 writes:
 MC> @MSGID: 1:382/1009.0 31f06d97
 MC> @PID: BWRA 3.11 [Eval]
 MC> @TID: GE 1.11+
 MC> I am curious as to all of the people that are out there looking 
 MC> for
 MC> their birth parents...
 MC> I am a birth mother who gave a child up for adoption almost 16 
 MC> years
 MC> ago, and I am unsure as to how I feel if he should decide to try 
 MC> and
 MC> find me..
 MC> I have never made a search to locate him, mainly because I did 
 MC> what I
 MC> felt was best for him, and made sure that he had a good caring 
 MC> family
 MC> that could care for him.
 MC> But I wonder what he is like, and if he will ever search for me.
 MC> I know that I will never activly search for him, because I feel 
 MC> that if
 MC> he wants his life to be turned around in another direction then 
 MC> that is
 MC> a choice that he must make when he is old enough to decide.
 MC> I am however very afraid that he will not understand my reasons 
 MC> for
 MC> giving him up. What I guess I want all of you to know, is that 
 MC> for most
 MC> parents, whether they be mother or father, to give your child up 
 MC> has to
 MC> be the most painful thing that they will ever do.
 MC> I wonder everyday what he looks like, what he likes, is he having 
 MC> a good
 MC> life, is he happy, is he... Yes I wonder everything about him.
 MC> There will always be that part of me that is gone from my life, 
 MC> but I
 MC> guess unlike a lot of people who have given a child up for 
 MC> adoption, I
 MC> do not feel as though I am his mother. I was not there for the 
 MC> nights of
 MC> pain when he had a fever, or lost his first tooth, or had some 
 MC> girl
 MC> break his heart. I was not there when he hit the homerun, or 
 MC> caught his
 MC> first fish. His Mother and Father were...
 MC> Please, when you start to look for the part of your life that you 
 MC> have
 MC> so many genuine questions about, please remember, that we are 
 MC> very
 MC> frightened also, and there are a lot of those who have never told 
 MC> their
 MC> family what has happened. Please tread very carefully, and make 
 MC> sure
 MC> that you do this in the right manner.
 MC> Take Care,
 MC> Margaret Collins
Hi Margaret. I'm 27 and was given up for adoption before I was even born. I 
recently did a search for my mother and was told that she wanted to wait for 
about 6 months to meet. After the 6 months she never returned any calls that 
CAS left for her. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't think that your son 
doesn't want you to search for him becouse I GUARANTEE you he is thinking 
exactly the same thing.
Look forward to hearing from you.
                        Derek Henderson
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