G'day Vicki,

Saturday January 18 1997 07:57, Vicki Crawford wrote to Bob Lawrence:

 VC> Well, I think I should be stressed at present. I certainly have
 VC> enough reason to be. But I feel I am functioning okay. Maybe those
 VC> friends I see regularily will say different? (Rod and Gaelyne am I
 VC> functioning okay?)

 Quit asking if you're functioning ok, and you'll be functioning just
 fine.  ;-)

 BL>> If you need a chart, you're not stressed. Moving house was
 BL>> nothing; I was never enough of a masochist to try marriage.

 I was somewhat surprised to see Bob was a bachelor-for-life.

 VC>> How do you ration stress?
 VC>
 BL>> People naturally place others under stress, as a way of
 BL>> relieving their own. Basically, you just tell them to bugger
 BL>> off. You have to learn to be rude, selfish, and a total
 BL>> bastard. It's actually fun!
 VC>
 VC> That's where I am going wrong. I am actually nice to people even now
 VC> during this trying time.

 I was mean today for you.  I ruined someones tea by phoning and
 telling them their VCR was going to be pretty expensive to fix and
 suggested they think it over and give us a ring back.  Any other day
 and I'd feel bad about it, but I guess I just needed to feel mean.
 ;-)

 BL>> And the weird part is that no matter what a total selfish
 BL>> bastard you become, consciously, you discover that most people
 BL>> are bigger bastards  unconsciously, and even more selfish than
 BL>> the new you. That's why you  are susceptible to stress... you
 BL>> let other people do it to you.

 I dunno about this.  I was pretty damn good at getting in a panic over
 whether Immigration would let me in or not, and I usually did this to
 myself rather than allowing someone else to get me stressed.  IE,
 don't psych yourself INTO stress you don't have or think you should
 have.

 VC> Nope not to me. I am in such a stressed situation that others
 VC> wouldn't dare dump on me. Actually I tell a lie, my mother is the

 I did too, whilst waiting for approval.   But then again, what are
 friends for, if you can't dump on EACH OTHER.  ;-)

 VC> thorn in my side at present, I have fixed her little wagon by not
 VC> ringing her so that she can dump on me, and she is too cheap to ring
 VC> me STD so for the last 3 weeks I have been away from her snide
 VC> remarks. And having just moved house in the last week I haven't
 VC> given her the new phone number either. 

    

That's evil.  

Cheers,
Gaelyne

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