I started to reply to this before, so if you see a similar post twice 
on here from me that's why.  To say briefly what I was being so 
long-winded about when I lost carrier while posting the latter 
incomplete message, I agree with what you are saying.  If you found the
joke offensive, I think you should speak uo and say something.
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For me, part of my recovery has been learning to speak up for myself 
and having the courage to change the things I can.  All of my life 
before that I had been expected to take inappropriate behavior and even
severe abuse without crying or showing any anger at all.  Learning to 
speak up for myself is important to me.  I don't think it has anything 
to do with "forgiveness" as apparently was suggested to you by the 
person you were replying to in the message I read.   I have spoken up 
for myself in situation where I didn't hold any resentment against the 
person - but still I felt I deserved some kind of restitution.  I think
learning to take care of ourselves by speaking up for ourselves in this
way is something that is a particular issue for many recovering women -
and anyone else from a background where they have been severely abused 
or for ACOA folk too in most cases.
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So I really want to support you in speaking out.
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By the way, I saw elsewhere you have celebrated your 4th anniversary 
clean and sober - way to go sister!  CONGRATULATIONS!  and may your 
Higher Power as you understand Her, Him, Them, or It - or anything else
- shower you with continued blessings of this type, always, a day at a 
time.
--- TriToss (tm) Professional 11.0 - #66
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