On (06 Dec 05) Cindy Haglund wrote to all...
 CH> Why is it. Society protects abusers, makes excuses for them, and often
 CH> times blames their  victims? It's always the victim's fault?

I disagree -- I've seen FAR more of the opposite, where the man was the
victim, but the system automatically blamed him anyway. . .

How far behind the times are you to think that women don't have a voice
as victims?

Don't you read the news?  Women are coming out left & right charging men
with abuse(sexual, physical, verbal, etc.), even if it's ten years ago &
it was, in the time/context, consensual!

 CH> You've all read how when a woman exposes a family member who molested
 CH> her as a child, the family turns against HER?

Years ago, yes, but now the grandpa is more likely to be charged with
sexually abusing his daughter because he dandied her on his knee, and
unbeknownst to him, it felt sexually good for her!

 CH> She should stay quiet and "keep the peace' and not ruin that abusive
 CH> person's life?? Just what about him ruining hers? Her mental state.

NOBODY in the law/government says this any more, and haven't for
YEARS!!!

 CH> You've all read / heard of scenarios similar to this?:
 CH>
 CH> Wife is in kitchen cooking supper.
 CH> Husband comes home, walks in kitchen and for no apparent reason
 CH> whatsoever picks up a frying pan and hits his wife. She falls to the
 CH> floor and he says he made him do it.
 CH>
 CH> Or he breaks her arm and then whines, "see what you made me do'?

YEARS ago, maybe!

 CH> The victim must DIE before the Law will step in and then again the
 CH> ""Pooooor"" abuser is always protected with
.... ohhh it was his
 CH> mother's fault!

Now, even if he just yells at her and calls her a slut (because she was
screwing his brother AND best friends) he gets charged with abuse!

Men are generally guilty until(ank  rarely) proven innocent!

Even if the courts find him innocent (sometimes he IS!) his life is
ruined forever -- his friends/family cut him off - he gets fired, etc.,
etc. . .
A woman, however, once she claims "victim" status is exalted to
near-royalty status ("oh, poor YOU!  That BEAST!!!!")

Because I care,
<+]::-{)}  (Cyberpope(the Bishop of ROM!))

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