0n (17 Nov 05) Kevin Klement wrote to James Bradley...

 KK> Hi James,

 KK> Sunday December 04 2005, James Bradley writes to Kevin Klement:

 > You know Cindy has no hearing?
 
 KK> Nope.. she didn't say anything to me. I find most people don't
 KK> talk about their disabilities, like most people don't know I'm
 KK> in a wheelchair.

Nor does anyone need to know, especially in cyberspace, but please
bear in mind the purpose of this echo; Abled. It's a support group.

Abled is for the benefit of the so called 'disabled' to discuss and
help each other cope with the TRUE; the  biggest "disability" or challenge
if you will, there is. The biggest challenge is not after all, being deaf
or being in a wheelchair.

The biggest challenge is attitude. Everybody's.

For me attitude adjustment has entailed a need for self acceptance.
Accepting that I am deaf but that I am a person first, deaf last.
And more importantly NOBODy has to fix themselves to fit the demands of
those who can't/won't accept us as we are (that being the best we can
be.)

If so and so is 'uncomfortable' around someone with a 'difference' and
therefor er rejects that person due to their difference:

Who has the disability here! Yeah. THEY DO! The 'abled' do.

And lately yes lately I don't even get mad and curse the lily livered
'abled' anymore. Nah. No fun in that.

To paraphrase a famous poet, Ella Wheeler Wilcox: ("Solitude")

"Laugh and the world laughs with you... weep and you weep alone..."
 Yeah, alone, even by those who have tried to help you- if you don't
 stop soon. Bitter cynicism/envy/hate- ultimately alienates even those
 who would other wise accept us ur 'difference.' Such is the poison
one takes waiting for ones foe to die. (I don't know the origin of this
last adage but it's a good one! Along with the free thinker's version
 of the Serenity 'prayer'. :)

 ................

 > On equal ground, have you never heard blood rushing through
 > your own system? Well; without implements.

When I could hear I don't recall 'hearing' blood rush except for when
adrenalin rush has occurred say. :) I would imagine outside noise to
drown the 'sound' of normal flow, out.

You become more aware of the internal noise I guess, when the outside
noise is silenced.
                 
 KK> Not blood, but my heart pounding, yes. My head pounding from automatic
 KK> disaffect, that spelling wrong, ever hear of that medical condition?

Yes that too! Adrenalin causes that. I don't feel it beating (that
would be as enervate as tinnitus... *(like paying way too much
attention to yourself breathing.)

Wrt your 'spelling wrong' disaffection. Not sure what that means but
if you are afright from typoitis relax. Speaking as legendary Typo
Queen have no worries at all. We enjoy them here. Nobody is going to
pick on you for them but if they're funny well hey! Self effacing humor
is the best kindness one can do for oneself for the betterment of relations
with others.. with everybody.


Cindy



... Art is a lie that makes us realize the truth.

--- PPoint 3.01