Just a thought - about becoming a RC (I assume ) or "celibate" priest -
in my area, at least, we have a couple of sober priests in AA.  If you 
are in AA or another 12 step recovery program, you might find your best
way to get feedback on this in recovery is to look one up.  Many of 
them do 12 step retreats and so on.  
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As far as music, I don't know why a priest couldn't use music to praise
the Higher Power of his understanding - I know some RC nuns who do so.
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But I'd like to share with you that for me, religion has been a point 
that has haunted my recovery.  You see I've always been religiously 
inclined, even before I got sober.  I had a head full of theology - of 
various and sundry kinds - and a belly full of booze and drugs, not to 
mention that my life was a mess.  Part of my relapse - the only one 
I've had, over ten years ago now - was getting involved in a religion 
in a leadership position, which left me little or no time for AA and 
for spirituality.  Even today, in sobriety, to my shock and amazement, 
I have ended up joining a Church - after swearing off Christendom in 
all it's forms forever years ago.  Because of the organization of the 
Church I now belong to, well, it has been a large part of an overall 
picture - including severe physical disability that keeps me from 
driving (visual - legal, but NOT total, blindness, some call it) - I 
have found it very hard to get to meetings.  
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The part the Church plays in it is to get in my head and to tell me 
that I've "Got" the spirituality now, so I don't need AA meetings - it 
also takes up alot of time that I might otherwise get to go to meetings
in, again and again.  This even when I swear to myself it would not do 
so anymore.  Because in this system, I find myself in situations where 
I have to obey priesthood authority, as I've promised to do.  It's easy
to blame the Church, but it's me too - I fall for the idea that I can 
handle this with just me and God.  I probably could too, if I had one 
honest bone in my body when it comes to booze and drugs.  But I don't -
which is why I have to find ways in my recovery program to "KEEP IT 
SIMPLE" - and it's why I need to stay in touch with recovering people 
to help me by keeping me honest about my booze problem.  
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Frankly, where I've used religion to decieve myself so often in the 
past, I find it extremely hard.  The bottom line for me is to remember 
the time when I had a head full of comparitive religion, theological 
theory, etc. and a belly full of booze and drugs and an absolutely 
MISERABLE life.  As opposed to this, in AA and recovery programs like 
it, I've found myself able to USE some of the great ideas I learned 
from all the religions I've studied because of the 12 steps - and so 
having an okay life, most of the time.
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Now if you can sort all this out and keep your recovery simple and 
still be a priest, I'm all for it - go for it!  that's great.  But I do
think it takes a great deal of honesty to do this.  Especially since 
some people tend to make recovering clergy into AA - or whatever 
fellowship - gurus.  And then it's like being "in the field" (working 
with alcoholics and/or addicts professionally, in detoxes, rehabs, 
halfway houses, outpatient, etc) where many feel that they have to 
always model recovery and say how great it is, so they feel they can't 
share their own burdens.  Many people who've been in recovery a long 
time feel the same way.  I think that is why relapse is so common among
these types of people - especially those in the "helping" fields.  (And
I did work "in the field" briefly for three months myself - that's when
my relapse BEGAN, thank God the only one I've had, one day at a time)
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As far as not being able to be a priest without a significant other or 
romantic partner, I'm surprised anyone in AA or in recovery would tell 
you that.  Most of us find these kind of relationships the biggest 
challenge in our recovery.  I know I do.  I know many folks in program 
who choose to stay out of relationships, not for religious reasons, but
for their own sanity.  In fact, come to think of it, many of the 
ordinary, non-alcoholics I know also find romantic relationships the 
hardest area of their lives to deal with too.
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In a case like yours, I'd follow what the AA step book suggest - seek 
for God's will and to make sure you aren't deceiving yourself, run it 
by your sponsor in the program, perhaps a counselor, a spiritual 
advisor, and others you trust.  Then pray some more and go with what 
you think is best, taking the advice into consideration.  You can 
always try it and change your mind, if it's not right for you later on,
as I understand it.
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GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS as you seek to find the right path for you.
--- TriToss (tm) Professional 11.0 - #66
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