CM> SB> Charles, is there any possibility that you are not 100% correct in 
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  > SB> your beliefs?
CM> Is this a attempt at sarcasm or a attack on my varsaty ? I give you
  > my opinion , if you don't like it or are unable to except it,this is
  > totally understandable. But to question the velleity by asking me
  > if I am intentionally being untruthful or incorrect, What dose this
  > mean !
I am not attacking your honesty.  I believe you believe what you say you
believe.  I think I am being a little sarcastic, but not really all that
much. I have a feeling that you have not looked at the possibility that
some of your beliefs might be wrong. And that possiblity is true of all
people, Charles, not just you. We all make many decisions based on
insufficient knowledge, emotionally charged data, and sheer exhaustion.
And some of those decisions we make for the wrong reasons may
become our most cherished beliefs about the matter.  I just wonder if
you realize that some of the things you are absolutely sure of are
probably wrong. Just as some of the things I'm absolutely sure of are
probably also wrong.
As an example, my son is currently at an "I want all the priviledges of
adulthood, but I don't want the responsibilities; and I know more than
you do anyway" stage.  I know that there are times when it is wiser not
to tell Robert what I think about something, because he will then
automatically believe the opposite.  *He* thinks he is reacting from his
heart and mind, that his positions are well thought out and well
reasoned.  I know, because I've seen if happen so often, that he's just
being an oppositional-defiant child.  And that's OK.  He *is* 14.  But
some of those decisions that he is making as an oppositional defiant
child will probably carry over into adulthood with him, and be part of
his cherished belief system.  Some of the beliefs I arrived at in the
same period of my life are probably also unexamined parts of my own
belief structure.  That's just how it is with people.
And, by the way, my son really *is* an oppositional defiant kid.
Adolescence makes it worse; but it has always been a part of him.
Robert *hates* rules; and I have seen him actually harm his cause by his
almost compulsive desire to disobey rules and laws, and to have *no*
authority at all over him.  I have learned over the years not to try to
shield Rob, and not to try to give orders that will protect him from
pain, unless it's a truly vital situation. I let him get hurt, because
there really is no way of avoiding it.  He only learns to obey the rules
when he has been hurt enough to see the reasons behind the rules.
However, I am not asking you to stop saying what you believe.
                           Sondra
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 þ SLMR 2.1a þ I don't suffer from insanity.  I love it.
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