My friend, from a divorce survivor whose survived and now remarried 
HAPPILY, I can hear you.  Thanks for sharing.  I don't know if they 
still have the SIP_CODA (codependents anonymous) echo on Fido, but if 
they do, you might want to ask your sysop to get it for you - CODA is a
12 step fellowship like AA only for people who are struggling with 
unhealthy relationships and the aftermath of same.  They work along the
lines of Al-Anon and Nar-Anon and Gam-anon family groups; however, it 
is not limitted to people who are married to folks with these 
addictions.  Coda is for anyone.
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I know Al-Anon helped me a lot and my ex - and other bad relationships 
too - had all had drinking problems.  But it's the same process Coda 
uses, pretty much.  And it got me through a real bad time.  If you 
can't find the CODA echo and you'd like me to try to locate CODA's 
national office address, I'd be glad to check it out with a friend who 
does go to CODA for you.  (Like Al-Anon and all the 12 step groups, a 
collection is taken at which you donate what you can afford - there is 
no set charge.  If you can't afford it, you don't have to give.  And, 
after divorce, who has money already?)
--- TriToss (tm) Professional 10.0 - #66
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