Hi, Ardith...

AH>          I take that as a good sign.  If there were plans to appeal the
AH>judge's decision, the SSA probably wouldn't be asking you for such informati
AH>yet.  :-)

  Well, something is in motion...had a significant bank accout EFT
deposit waiting when my wife and I got back from a bereavement trip to
Florida this week...her grandmother passed away last Thursday at 92. It
was a royal pain, security wise...even with our disability and medical
documentation. We'll be making some phone calls Monday to verify things
before we start moving some of that money to pay bills.

AH>          I guess you found the right words to get the message across!  That
AH>a challenge in itself.  Dallas & I also found when we needed help for Nora
AH>that
AH>we had to emphasize what she could *not* do, but it goes against the grain..

  While we were in Florida this past week for my wifes grandmothers
funeral, one of the family members has several health issues...but he
says "he was denied disability because his wife makes too much money".
He was going to just throw in the towel on it, but several
others...including my wife and I...told him that "he had to fight them".

  I think many folks give up after the first "denial"...and unless it is
SO OBVIOUS that you are disabled (i.e. broken neck, paralysis,
blindness, loss of a limb, etc.), you will get denied at least once...if
not more...and it will take awhile to get your claim granted.

  Another friend we know fought the government on that...but he did it
without an attorney (he said he hates lawyers). From what I recall, he
said that "even though he won, he wasn't granted as much as he would
have because he didn't have legal counsel".

  I think it is worth the risk to have legal counsel...especially if
they work on a contingency basis. If you lose, neither you nor they get
anything for their efforts...so the attorney will do all they can to win
your case.

AH>          Sounds like quite a realistic attitude to me.  IMHO any two people
AH>who are honest with themselves, and authentic with each other, will almost
AH>certainly have at least a few differences of opinion.  If you &
your wife ca
AH>resolve such differences to the satisfaction of both parties without a major
AH>blowup, I see no need to change your style to meet other people's
AH>expectations....  :-)

  The thing is...if the couple doesn't have some kind of disagreement
along the way...it's like a pressure cooker. It will be messy when it
blows!!

AH>          Some folks think it's so-o-o romantic if their spouse is
AH>"possessively jealous".  By the time I hear about it,
however, they've usual

AH>begun to see it in a different light... they no longer want to be regarded a
AH>anybody's personal property.  I think the important factor is that your wife
AH>isn't trying to change or control you & vice versa.  In other
words, be what
AH>you want to attract.  :-))

  We give each other the space needed, and work with each other...even
"submitting graciously to each other". Marriage is a two way street, of
give and take...and when you add disabilities into the equation, it
makes it even more important.

Daryl

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