Dear Janelle,
   Listening not a problem! thanks for listening to me as well.:) I had a few 
problems with Birth cousins Who don't understand that reunions are hard on 
everyone especially the Adoptee.I 'll never forget my pushy cousin who told 
me I had spent enough time with my best friend while visiting her and that it 
was now time for me to come and be with family. I tried to compromise with 
her on a time  for me to show -up as dinner wasn't till much later, and as my 
friend and I were going to the water slides that day. Well this wasn't good 
enough for my cousin and I was told to be there at her house at the set time 
or not bother coming. I was very uncomfortable about all of this and there 
was no telling her otherwise. Needless to say I didn't attend, because I was 
so upset at her unthoughtfulness in the whole situation. Come to think of it, 
its still leaves a bad taste in my mouth now that I think about it. What I 
also find hard is when b-families want to make up for all the lost years 
right away, or pick up like nothing has changed in your life or theirs> I 
don't know if you have had to deal with this, but I sure have! I 'm glad I 
have found some of my family, but many more pieces of my puzzle are missing. 
one day when I'm ready to find those pieces I'm sure I will, but for now I'm 
content with the way my life is at the moment. Take care, if you want to chat 
via Email, then Email Address is Trilliun@brentwood.bc.ca
or its on here I think as well at the end I think? anyhow one or the other 
doesn't matter.
See ya,
        Judy
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