No, silly coffee aren't square.  PiRsquared - coffee are round.  No, *cake* 
are square, pie are round, dang you got me all confused and just when I was 
trying to convince my grandson that Gram hadn't forgotten *all* her high 
school geometry!
Seriously, I was very sorry to hear of your mother's poor health coming so 
soon after your losses.  My sponsor used to tell me that God makes our 
crosses to fit and makes damned few heroes.  Sometimes, I think that God 
thinks I'm tougher than I am and sends too much at once but, I seem to 
survive and, as Dusty O'yefsky that great Irishman who moved to Russia said." 
What doesn't kill me strengthens me. "    My heart is with you in this time 
of stress.  My mother has Altzheimers and has thought I was her mother for 15 
years - whenever she has a 'moment'.  Otherwise she just cries at me and then 
yells at her nurses for days.  She carried a lot of guilt and 
couldn't/wouldn't believe that she didn't make me alcoholic by her abuse and 
neglect.  Many years ago, I decided that both parents did the best they could 
given their circumstances and even became grateful that a tough childhood had 
preparesd me for all the 'stuff' that had come down my road.  She would never 
accept that and thought I was just trying to make her feel better.  When my 
sister died of an alcoholic brain aneurism at 55, my mother just lost it and 
retreated into her disease.  Whenever she sees me, her guilt makes her angry. 
 Boy can I identify with that and the medical staff is really impressed with 
my Alma Mater ( U of Waterloo in Ontario, Canada).  I tell them that I 
learned about all that in AA but, they smile wisely and just know that I 
learned about life second hand at school.  
Well, I caromed right off into left field didn't I? Must be October, been 
reading here that strange stuff happens in October. 
Hope you mother is better and that God is giving you the strength and friends 
to help you through this tough time.  Regards, Joan Rea 
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