Hi, Daryl!  Recently you wrote in a message to Ardith Hinton:

DS>  I got a call from them today to inquire on information
DS>  for where the benefits will go.


          I take that as a good sign.  If there were plans to appeal the
judge's decision, the SSA probably wouldn't be asking you for such
information yet.  :-)



DS>  One individuals sister-in-law had applied for it, and
DS>  there were "numerous bureaucratic delays", as he put it.
DS>  They finally granted it...unfortunately, it was 40 days
DS>  after her death. :(


          Bureaucracy is weird & wonderful sometimes, to be sure... (sigh).



DS>  At the administrative law judge hearing, I asked "Would
DS>  you, as an employer, hire someone who:

                           [...]

DS>  Everyone I've asked has said "No"...


          I guess you found the right words to get the message across! 
That's a challenge in itself.  Dallas & I also found when we needed
help for Nora that we had to emphasize what she could *not* do, but it goes
against the grain....  :-/



DS>  We've had our disagreements over the years, but have
DS>  never had "a big quarrel".


          Sounds like quite a realistic attitude to me.  IMHO any two
people who are honest with themselves, and authentic with each other, will
almost certainly have at least a few differences of opinion.  If you &
your wife can resolve such differences to the satisfaction of both parties
without a major blowup, I see no need to change your style to meet other
people's expectations....  :-)



DS>  She told me that "she would never use sex as a weapon",
DS>  and "she would not make me give up anything that made me
DS>  happy". She knows I've made numerous sacrifices over the
DS>  years, and we've botj known people who are so "possessively
DS>  jealous" over their spouse...that's selfishness, IMO.


          Some folks think it's so-o-o romantic if their spouse is
"possessively jealous".  By the time I hear about it, however,
they've usually begun to see it in a different light... they no longer want
to be regarded as anybody's personal property.  I think the important
factor is that your wife isn't trying to change or control you & vice
versa.  In other words, be what you want to attract.  :-))




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