RE: Normal and daydreaming
Yes I agree with you Jerry.  ADHD is a handicap, but we can eith wallow
in it or try to deal with it in a positive way.  If we wallow in this
handicap we are not only terribly hurting our children they will never
learn to survive in this world.  I myself have said I would rather have
my children than a so called normal child.  As difficult as it may be
for both children and parent, I have learned things I never would have
about children.  I have became closer with them and working
with them has given me and them a desire to improve.  I am now getting
I love you so much from my 8 year old that we can hardly believe the
change he is doing.  Some of his fits are less emotional and slaming
doors and hitting things are slowly becoming a thing of the past.  He
still has an attitude, but we are learning together to handle these things.
Yes, you wish your child didn't have this affliction.  But you can deal
with it positively.  You can turn that handicap into growth and love.
Other teenager don't have that.  They go to school, live their lives apart
most of time without parents attention.  Jerry does your son possibly have
ODD?  I had a daughter who couldn't tell the difference from reality and 
fiction
until she reached 20=21.  She accused my husband of well you can guess.
Through a Psychologist we discovered that she could not tell the difference
between dreams and when she was awake.  Her father who mistreated her 
emotionally
was in battle with a stepfather who acted like the father she wanted.
This caused the dreams to become reality.  A nitemere for us all.  Once she
got help she started to fight back at her father and her closeness with
her stepfather became very great.  A guilt complex for feeling the way she
did about her father and stepfather.  Hopefully your child will learn the 
difference.  Daydreaming can sometimes become so severe that trying to
bring them back to reality seems impossible. I know.  My daughter now has
been diagnosed with Manic Depression.  She needs to take something for it
but is scared to because she has two children and is afraid of reactions.
She is now living in reality.  But regardless of what they do I as a parent 
and person love my children, UNCONDITIONALLY. So even though my children 
have a handicap I look at it differently.  They are children like other
children who just need help to develop in certain areas.  Once I looked
at it that way my children became real persons.
Regina
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