On or about 11-03-09 14:12, Ardith Hinton allegedly uttered "Physio...
 1A." to
James Bradley:

 AH>            In my experience a lot of "junque" (stuff
which is too good
 AH> to throw out, but which I don't quite know what to do with) is
 AH> easier to discard after a period of time has elapsed.

Maybe I was foreshadowing this message but the day it arrived, I was vacuuming
my front room for the first time in a long time. I had to shuffle the deck a
bit to do so. 

 AH> Things got away on me when Nora required intensive
 AH> parenting.  I guess things got away on you when a rough
 AH> patch in your life made it imperative to find a reason to
 AH> get out of bed.  I won't say "in the morning" because I
 AH> know you're a musician, and I'm a night person too!  We

Ya... I don't know what I am going to use for motivation when the cat is no
longer pestering me to go outside.  

 AH> both did what we had to do back then... but now we're left
 AH> with another daunting task.

I'm banking on a decade to sorting. 

Sadly, I use a new piece of equipment, furniture, or flooring material to
motivate me to clear out a space for it. I *was* planning to load a shipping
container with my good stuff, and "dumpster" the rest when I
subcontracted a
new structure on an acreage. (Boy, would this be a great time to move
"up"!) 
Now that I have to modify the plan, I have to figure out a way to heave the
crap, liquidate the sell-able, and erect the keepers in my alloted space. Now
that I don't have a dream destination, I have a target room dedicated to
shelving that I hope can provide staging while the rest gets organized around
it.

 AH>            Years ago we had folks in this echo with a wide variety of
 AH> problems, many of whom participated in various "recovery"
 AH> echoes.  I read these echoes in order to gain understanding
 AH> of where they were coming from & saw that they were on more
 AH> or less the same path as Bernie Siegel's "Exceptional
 AH> Cancer Patients". Whether it's mental/emotional baggage, or
 AH> an overabundance of physical objects, you didn't accumulate it
 AH> overnight & you're doing whatever you can one day at a time.  Breaking
 AH> tasks into smaller segments does seem to help.  The experts
 AH> say we should focus on a single room before tackling the
 AH> next, but I've yet to hear from one who takes into account
 AH> (for example) our need to store OT/PT equipment where Nora
 AH> & her therapists can easily get at it.  Maybe a square foot
 AH> of space at a time is more realistic as long as *you* can
 AH> see you've made some progress.

At the risk of sounding like a Wayne Dyer promotion, I've never suffered with
not having a "plan of attack". Now I need to find ever-more
creative ways to
attack the plan. Speaking of self help, If you've never heard of Drew Pinsky,
try to be in front of the Much More Music channel Sunday - coming. They are
debuting a new series of his on addiction then. I watched with much admiration
his previous series, so I doubt this one will disappoint anyone willing to drop
his own baggage at the door.


 AH>            A week or so ago I saw an article about an expert I might be
 AH> able to get along with, anyway.  He induced the reporter to tidy
 AH> stacks of papers which she keeps on the floor between her
 AH> own desk & that of a photographer.  (She has no filing
 AH> cabinet & she uses a chronological method of sorting.  I
 AH> can relate!) Unlike many such people, this fellow didn't
 AH> pressure her to throw out anything. After devoting a whole
 AH> afternoon to the project she commented "The photographer
 AH> didn't notice."  I reckon it doesn't matter to him either
 AH> way.  She may be more appreciative of that when some time
 AH> has gone by & she has slipped back into her old habits.
 AH> But the thing is, you have to do it for yourself.  And if
 AH> you have other priorities from time to time... I've never
 AH> heard anybody say at a funeral that they'd cheerfully eat
 AH> off the floor at So-and-So's house or that the place was so
 AH> neat & tidy they were afraid to touch anything.  IMHO they
 AH> will remember that you always had time for the
 AH> neighbourhood kids... that you shovelled their sidewalks
 AH> when others didn't seem to care... and that you made them
 AH> laugh.  ;-)

How we modify our goals, eh? Going from building an energy smart retirement
cottage, I now hope not to leave my executor with too much of a headache.


Right now, I have a "home theater" receiver on the shelf that is worth my
effort to implement, so you might not hear much from me for the next while.



... James
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