SM> I would like to let her know that she does have two
SM> great-grandchildren.
Ask the agency you work thru for this to forward a letter and enclose the
letter with postage. I am assuming you have her name? If you already have
the address, just send her the letter.
If I were writing such a letter, I would tell her that you understand her
need for privacy, but you hope she will understand your need to know your
root information and hopefully meet her as friends. No one else she knows
needs to think you're more than an old school chums granddaughter.
Keep in mind that some adoptees are products of incest or rape. I know this
is something hard to handle from the adoptees standpoint, but it would also
be even more devestating to the b-mom. Knowing this and not knowing if it is
true in your case, maybe you could enclose a self addressed and stamped post
card. If the case is true, ask her to simply write "it is true" and mail. If
it is not so, would she return it with some permission to write again..like
"o.k."
I really can't think of anything else. I am a B-Mom reunited with my son. It
took 30 years of heartbreak, but I'm so very happy now. If he had of been the
product of some devistating event, I'm not sure I would have looked, but 
ince
I was not in that position, I can only guess at how she might feel if that's
what happened to her.
Good luck, Julie
... Angels today are like those of yesterday, they look like people.
--- Alexi/Mail 2.02b (UNREG)
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