In a note to all, you said...
MA>phone no. to anyone -even her Higher Power - without asking me first.
MA>Today she was talking to her mom when she heard my voice in the
MA>background - turns out her mom is my downstairs neighbor, who I am
MA>friendly with.  So she breaks my anonymity and tells her mom I am her
MA>AA sponsor, then gives her mom my PHONE no.
[...]
MA>I don't appreciate this, but I don't know how firm to be.  The young
MA>lady is not as stupid as she sometimes acts and as she thinks she is,
[...]
MA>I am trying to decide whether to continue sponsoring her or not.
MA>If anyone has any personal experience with a situation like this, I
MA>could sure use the feedback right now and thanks a lot.
I have had something a BIT similar happen..  A girl asked me to be her
sponsor, and I said I would... then she was constantly at my door or on
the phone with any number of daily/hourly crises...  what finally tore
it was I had a display of 'wares' at a local flea market.. she happened
across me and starting talking about all sorts of things that should
have only been discussed in a private meeting...  I asked her to please
stop as others could overhear us, and still she continued blabbing on.
So, not only was she breaking MY anonimity, she was putting everyone
else in jeopardy by mentioning names and situations.  I finally had to
just be blunt and tell her that she needed to be quiet.  That was she
was discussing was NOT something for the general public to be hearing.
She heard what I said and still continued.  I got busy with something
else and she finally walked away.  I brought it up in our next meeting
with everyone, and told her in front of the group just exactly why I
felt that I could no longer be here sponsor.  If she couldn't respect my
anonimity, nor have any respect for anyone else in the group, then I
could not comfortable have anything to do with her.
Course.. the rest of the group got into quite a fuss when they heard
that THERE anonimity had also been compromised...  BUT... I had no
control over how they reacted... 8-}  and react they did...
But... back to your situation... I would say that you have every right
in the world to tell her to hit the road... that you don't feel
comfortable being her sponsor when she obviously did not respect your
wishes that your phone number not be given out...
And.. don't feel guilty that you are turning your back on her or her
recovery.. she is a big girl.. quite capable of finding someone else.
my two cents worth anyways... 8-}  Good Luck...  this is a hard spot to
be in...
Chow chow chow................for now..............Sharon Stevens.
 * SLMR 2.1a * Astronomers do it in the dark...
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