I have a problem lately and thought I would run it past you hoping for
suggestions.  Here it is:
Jeremy has been really awful lately.  About a month now.  If I ketch him at
doing something wrong and try to talk to him or call him he walks off on me.
Literally walks away and does not turn back.  Especially if it is outside.
Nothing I do works on stopping this.
Also he is consistently now saying no to me.  If I ask him to do something it
is no.  Usually in a smart voice.  If I take something away or time out him
he just says I don't care and walks away.
Its been really tuff with him lately.  He is 9 1/2 now and this behavior is
at its peak.  Dad can do something with him, but Dad is not always home, plus
I don't feel it is right to say "wait for Dad to get home", especially for an
ADHD child who needs to get discipline immediately after whatever they have
done.
Up until a month ago.  I have handled him very well.  Things were looking
really good.  I want to send him to Karate school, but haven't found one
I like yet.  The last one recommended by some Psycologists was not as good
as they thought.  The class was confusing for the kids and too small (room
size) for the amount of kids there.  Plus I don't like Tae Kwon Do style
anyways.
Yesterday, he become so awful I totally crashed and cried.  Needed that I
guess.  I talked to him later and although he said he was not pleased he
made me cry, his attitude did not really change.  And he still did what he
wanted.
This seems to me it is a power struggle.  I don't want to play that game!
Yet I am finding myself in it all the time now.  There has been no changes
here or nothing I can think of to cause him to change like this.  All I can
think of is he is just trying to become more independent and rebelling.
But why all of a sudden is beyond me.
Any specific way to handle this appropriately?  What would you do or more
specifically your wife.  It seems mothers have a tuffer time getting a
handle with kids, where fathers seem to carry more weight with authority.
Being that Jeremy is also ODD I really fear for what he could turn out to
be.  His violent temper (hitting, punching and kicking) and his I don't
care attitude (the tough, macho, unfeeling one) will get him in serious
trouble if he can't get a handle on it.
Therapy is not in the cards right now, finacially speaking, plus he is
different with them and will not talk or reveal anything.
Should I really consider Ritalin now?  I've gotten away with it up until
now.  I was hoping I would not have to resort to that as it was working
well without it.
Thanks
Regina
... ARRRRRGGGHHH!!!! ... Tension breaker, had to be done.
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