-> I have found a school that is reccomended by mental health officials in my
-> area.  They also teach with full contact.
May I ask which school is this?  I live in Southgate, MI not too far from 
ou,
I have ADHD, and two daughters with it also.
-> I know many people may disagree
-> with this and would like some opinions.  My Jeremy rarely starts a fight,
-> but I live in a Mini-Detroit area where the bigger kids are really picking
-> on him.  Although he can fight back, he doesn't do it much outside the 
me
Well on the bright side they say that the ADHD kids who are not the bully 
ype
have a better prognosis for becoming successful adults.
-> (meaning only with his brothers and sisters).  He is intimidated by their
-> age and size (I don't really blame him).  We have gangs in the area and
-> going to the parents DOES NOT work.  I want him to learn the discipline
-> Karate takes, but I do want him to have confidence to fight back.  I am 
ot
-> avocating violence as I would like him to learn to walk away too and first
-> most, but I feel in the area I live he must learn to defend himself.  Am I
-> wrong for such an attitude?
No not at all.  But as you say, he must also learn the discipline of walking
away first if possible.  Any Teacher or Instructor he learns from should also
stress the fact that Karate should only be used for defense and not a tool to
pick on or beat up others.
-> This teacher says he can work with any problem
-> I have at home too.  I know someone who has trained under him for about 13
-> years, he is an adult now.  Supposedly he had an extremely bad temper and
-> attitude.  He seems quite passive now (as passive as someone like that can
-> be).  I do see some of it now and then but it is hardly what I would call 

-> temper.  Would full contact be wrong? I don't like tournament Karate as I
-> have seen people who can not defend themselves with it.
Yes this is a problem with noncontact Karate.
->
-> For those who may not know of Jeremy I will give a brief summary.  He is
-> aggressive (very much) and defiant.  ADHD/ODD.  We are talking probable
-> deliquent type.  The kind that has no problem with saying NO and walking
-> away from you if you call him.  He can not handle teasing and has a lot of
-> trouble with his emotions.  Disappointment, anger, sadness all represent
-> anger or aggressive outcomes.  He is not affectionate, although it will 
come
-> out once in a while and mainly with his cat.  He can at times control his
-> behavior, such as taking deep breaths during an aggressive episode and
-> calming himself down, but this is few and far between.  He is not on Meds.
-> He behaves fairly well (most of time) at other peoples houses, until he
-> feels comfortable (more on the shy side) and then nothing holds him back. 

-> feel I have taken him as far as I can.  Being 9 his defiant behavior is
-> really becoming a problem.
That could also be the beginings of puberty kicking in also.  I know my 
oldest,
now 9 going on 10 is quite the same way.  She will get an attitude storm off 
to
her room and slam the door behind her.
-> I will say this he loves making me tea and
-> cooking for me.  But this alone will not fill all his unconstructed time 
nor
-> does this change his true problems. May I also add Jeremy's mind is
-> constantly going and does not fall asleep until 3 or later in the morning.
-> Now because he is so aggressive is full contact too much?  I am going down
-> to talk to the instructor again in person.  Any opinions are welcomed.
No, because full contact could become an outlet for his aggressiveness.  Once
again, if the Instructor stresses the true spiritual and self control that 
he
martial arts offer, this could become a great learning experience, as well as
calming influence on him.
Tom
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