-> John Hoppman (On 25 Apr 97) was overheard expounding to Bob Moylan
->
-> Hi John...
->
-> JH>     Not to start a fight or anything like that...but
->
-> Not to worry...but  (-;
->
->
-> JH> if you "train" a child on what is wrong or right they will
-> JH> become stronger,
->
-> I can agree with that to the extent that the parent's values are
-> instilled into the child ... I'll refrain from making any comment
-> about the "wrongness" or "rightness" of what is taught.
->
-> JH> i dont spank my children,instead they get "time out"
->
-> The only thing that spanking a child, with or without ADD/ADHD
-> accomplishes is to show that child that if you are bigger and
-> stronger than someone else you can get usually get away with
-> inflicting physical pain.
->
->
-> JH> works wonders,however isnt that a mental punishment?
->
-> No, I don't think it is.  There is a world of difference between
-> psychological abuse (mental punishment) and requiring a child to sit
-> quietly for a predetermined period of time.  Time out is, in effect,
-> time out for both the child and the parent.  Gives the parent time to
-> cool off, if that is necessary. If the time out concept has been
-> explained to the child as a time for her to think about why she is
-> there, what she could have done differently to avoid being there and
-> how she can handle the same or similar situation in the future then
-> it is simply another parenting tool.  The behavior that caused the
-> time out to be implemented must discussed immediately after the time
-> out and the child helped to express the why, what, how above.
->
-> JH> i dont know...never claimed to have all the answers,
->
-> Grin.. if you ever find them out P L E A S E  share them around..
->
-> Regards....Bob
->
-> ... My Daughter is an Honor Student at StarFleet Academy.
->
-> --- PPoint 2.03
Hey I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and time out has not been the
way for us we have tried that he gets up moves aroung and screams at us
so we simply put the child in his room with no toys for 2 minutes (1
minute for each year of age) and then ask him if he is ready to behave!
We have found that an occational swat on the hand is nesisary only if he
is grabbing for objects that are dangerouse plus we do spank him if he
runs toward the street so sometimes time out does not always work for
everyone!!
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