REGINA FINAN was thinking about Re: Punishment and keyed into 
cyberspace:
RF> K>You see, her Mom has "laid down the law", so to speak, and is
RF> K>willing to discuss things when Jaime breaks a rule the *first*
RF> K>time.  But after the second time...... that Mom starts counting to
RF> K>10.  If she *reaches* 10, Jaime gets a spanking.  (So far, I've
RF> K>heard her count to 8 before Jaime settled down.)  Mind you, this
RF> K>is a *wonderful* child; she's a giggle-box and laughs at most
RF> K>things.  Once she gets going..... well, it's hard *not* to join in
RF> K>with her giggling. 
RF> MP> And a beaten child. A shame.
RF> 
RF> I sure don't want to get into this one.  A spanking to an ADHD child
RF> would not work anyways.
Agreed. In fact, it is counterproductive.
RF> K>It works, if the parents are willing to work with the child and
RF> K>explain *why* the rule is there.  (and have patience while doing
RF> K>so. :) 
RF> MP> Fine explain the rule. Set limits. Have a consequence for going
RF> MP> beyond the limits. However, to move from no punishment to
RF> MP> beating the child is  absurd. You give up so much. And the vast
RF> MP> majority of parents are  willing to work with the child.
RF> It seems that the public, does not understand this matter.  I will
RF>not go  into spanking as the moderator has called it an inappropriate
RF>discussion,  but I do myself believe violence creates violence.
I do not remember the moderator in ADHD banning that. Donna Ransdall in 
Parents does. 
If it has been banned here, I'll stand by that.
                   ===>Mark Probert<===
                   mark.probert@juno.com
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