KETIRA  was thinking about Re: Punishment and keyed into cyberspace:
K>-=> John Hoppman said *this*?
K> JH> i think thats the best way...my folks did that to me...(i dont
K> JH> think they should get the whippins that i did )but just enough to
K> JH> know the act was wrong...then they will think about it before
K> JH> they try it again... ---------------------just my
K> JH> opinion-------------------------------- 
K>That's what my parents did with me --and not just for small things,
K>but major things (i.e: not leaving a note when taking a walk --I got
K>grounded for a month for that!).  After one spanking from Dad,
K>however, I learned to listen for a *certain tone of voice*, and act
K>QUICK when he used it! 
Well, that explains it. You were brought up to think that abusing 
children by hitting them is normal. 
True ADHD prevents a child from learning to listen for that tone of 
voice, or instituting the reflective pause prior to acting. Beating them 
into submission will not "teach" them that. They will not learn it from 
a beating. What they will learn is fear. 
K>Now that I'm an adult, I'm learning, with help from my therapist, to
K>overcome some of the fear that I've had with it..... but at the time,
K>I deserved the spanking.  :/  :>
No, you did not deserve the spanking. No one, especially and ADHD child, 
deserves a spanking. 
K>Blessings,
A true blessing is growing up without learning the fear of a beating.
                   ===>Mark Probert<===
                   mark.probert@juno.com
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