04-02-05  14:02, Ardith Hinton told James Bradley about People...  1.

 Well, how do, Ardith?


 AH> Hi, James!  Retitling 2B, and dividing it into three parts:

Ardith, Ardith, Ardith... I thought we were taking a "Spring
Break!" 

I'm still stuck on the Windows box, and almost done with three loads of
laundry, so we'll see if I make any sense today.

 JB>  Tact to me means you don't say something that could
 JB>  come back to haunt you later. Say in a business
 JB>  situation, or as a consumer, there are ways to allow
 JB>  people grace, while you are tearing their faces off.

 AH> Sounds like a good rule of thumb to me!  I think
 AH> the same applies in relationships with one's friends & 
 AH> relatives too....  :-)

Sure, there are friends and relatives that you can tell how you feel, but
mostly decorum has one keeping it to ones self. If a friend is one of the
later, they can be bad for your own blood pressure, so you have to evaluate
the worth of their friendship. Shoot... Nobody wants to walk on egg shells,
just because some sorry sod can't take a hint. I still have one friend,
likely my most solid one, who I have walked away from twice now. He didn't
have a clue to why I was walking at the time, but he was informed when we
patched things up again. I can be a handful too, so I don't expect everyone
to have a halo, just an openness to their own failings.

In the business world, I found those who seemed to enjoy belittling others
tend to stagnate in their careers. Those who tend to high-falute, usually
shoot them self in the foot. My position was usually to stand aside, and
let them get their just deserve. My job was a blue collar unionized one, so
I was forced to work with some jealous older managers. Jealous, as I earned
much more than they did. When the boss 'had the goods', I would only inform
them how I thought they were getting excremented on, and that I thought
they could do better. I still know of one who is now the district manager
for the same company, and if policy is the same, his contract has him
working for less than minimum wage. /-: Another friend had a manager for
that same company apply for a job she was managing, and she was shocked to
see how low their wage was. No wonder there was jealousy at my work!


 AH> IMHO a sense of humour goes a long way....  :-)
 
Sure makes a person easier to be around, doesn't it? 
 

 AH> There have been times in my life when I wondered
 AH> what I was supposed to be doing next.  Maybe you & I are 
 AH> already doing it here in SURVIVOR....  :-)
 
Ya... That's the ticket! 

Why you always ask the tough questions... Do I have a case of the
"Should-a/Could-a/Would-a"? You bet! Now that I am here, all I
can do is go forward with what I have. I often tell people who deserve a
little more conversation than a tele-marketer, "Doin' what I can with
what I've got." What else *can* you do? (I know, the grammer needs
some work. )

 
 JB>  Cheers! You're a bloomers kinda girl. 

 AH> Uh... yeah, I guess I am in some ways.  :-))
 
Mom was a teacher too, so as long as you don't take your work home with
you, we should get along fine. <-;

At times, I realize mom gave me the best education on the planet, and other
times, I just wished she'd take the psycho-babble back to where she learned
it. Something tells me I would have told her so much.  Just
recently, she wanted to apologize to me for her efforts at raising us kids,
but I wouldn't accept under the premiss that she too was doing the best she
could with the tools and resources at her disposal. Sure, it wasn't the
Cleavers' house I grew up in, but it was FAR from the worst situation.

 
 AH>  If your sister has actually read the stuff & she
 AH>  understands what she's read, I guess it's better
 AH>  late than never.
 
 JB>  You got that right. It's just like them to be full
 JB>  of their own notions though. I guess that can be
 JB>  true for most of us.

 AH> Probably....  :-)
 
Go with what you know! 
 
 JB>  As long as the song's in "Our key" everything is
 JB>  peachy. Comes a minor key, and you can spot the
 JB>  Laurence Welk crowd in a heartbeat.

 AH> Maybe they don't "change their tune" when new 
 AH> information enters the picture, or recognize that the 
 AH> background music could be a false alarm....  ;-)

Heck... If my life has a soundtrack, it'd be pretty convoluted! <-|

Shortly after graduation, I started listening to divergent musical
influences. (I'm deliberately keeping this fluffy. ;-) It's still hard for
me to listen to orchestral music though, as once you've played 'in the
pit,' there's no stereo on earth that can replicate that. Opera is still
beyond me.


 AH> I can relate.  As I was about to start on my reply to the
 AH> above,  our doorbell rang.  Two individuals representing an 
 AH> organization unknown to me were apparently going around the 
 AH> neighbourhood seeking gifts of money.  One launched into a 
 AH> spiel about how the organization helps disabled people, at 
 AH> which point I asked "Oh... you realize we have a disabled 
 AH> person here??"  They hadn't noticed the wheelchair just 
 AH> inside the door & other clues which would be fairly obvious 
 AH> to somebody with related experience.  To their credit, 
 AH> however, they offered me a pamphlet about the good work the 
 AH> organization does & left it at that....  ;-)

Oh, I rarely open my door to almost anyone these days. Besides, by the time
I gather myself off the bed, they have usually gone to the next house to
pander for dollars. If I'm close, I'll answer by an upper level door, and
get a good look at the back of their heads as I am getting their attention.
Again, like on the phone, once I tell them I'm on a government disability
they tend to scoot off rather quickly.

 AH> People don't always take in what they see or hear.  They
 AH> may  believe they're good listeners... others may describe them 
 AH> as good listeners.  But they may seem deaf to your concerns 
 AH> because the subject matter is unfamiliar to them and/or 
 AH> because they're preoccupied with an agenda of their own 
 AH> which has little or nothing to do with you.  Ignorance is 
 AH> curable, and if a person is willing to learn I'm quite 
 AH> happy to help.  If the real issue has to do with something 
 AH> else entirely, however, I think it may be wiser to keep 
 AH> one's own counsel... (sigh).

Well, how can you teach a person who would prefer to remain ignorant? I too
have to realize most people are rather happy listening to 'tame' music, and
I *think* I can forgive them of that. I can't understand it, but I do have
to make the effort to not feel sorry for them. (Sorry if you *are* a
Laurence Welk fan, BTW. :-) I'll take my father as an example. (Man, I feel
like I should be on a couch!  * Origin: -=-= Calgary Oraganization (403) 242-3221 (1:134/77)

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