Did you know that coincidence is simply God being anonymous?
There was some discussion about trouble in relationships recently.  I didn't 
feel I should butt in as I hadn't read the whole thing  *but*  If you 
sincerely want a relationship to work, 59-50 is not good enough.  If you are 
not 100% for your  partner, you're wasting your time.  If you only expect to 
have to give 50% and have the other person meet you with their 50%, you're 
putting love on a commercial basis.  Happiness is the desire to give; 
unhappiness is the desire to get.  Life's that simple.  If I spend my time 
looking for things to make my spouse's life happier, I feel good.  If I spend 
it looking for things he should do for me, I'm miserable because firstly 
he'll never be able to do enough for that type of selfish person and 
secondly, he won't have a clue as to how to make me happy because I won't 
even know myself. The insanity spoken of in step two is precisely this 
childish, demanding, self-centredness wherin I make demands on the world to 
give me happines if it will only  (fill in the blank......) forgetting that 
as I give to the world, so it gives to me.   I see people talking aabout 
smugly thanking God that the spouse is the sicker one   sounds like alkie 
false pride to me.   Joan
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