-=> While eating Chocolate, Desiree had this to say: <=-
 DL> I can never say that no matter how mad I have been with David that it
 DL> has never come down to hating him. I have gotten awfully angry with
 DL> him, but no different than if Cory was 18 right now and pulling the
 DL> same things with a younger sibling.
 RF>
 RF> I was not implying hating the child, merely their inappropriate
 RF> behavior. I guess, sometimes coffee doesn't wake me up enough to put
 RF> my statements in proper words.
No I didn't think you were. I think sometimes I am so conscious of others
reading all conversations that I clarify my feelings so there is no mis-
understanding of my part.
 DL> Ron has a problem with this... I told him to look at it as a new door.
 RF>
 RF> Alot of parents have a problem with this.  I did my daughter tried to
 RF> make a choice of moving out at 17.  I had to let go.  It was a good
 RF> choice for her.  Yes she made some bad mistakes, but by allowing her
 RF> to make that choice and those mistakes, she grew into a remarkable
 RF> person.  One I guess I thought she would never do.  And we became so
 RF> close.  Which I also thought could never happen.
Well, I have seen their relationship change over the past few days. Ron
has also gotten alot happier and more at ease. David seems to think he has
found some maturity!!! (hmmmm...) I can't tell where these changes are
leading to, but maybe David will understand his father's motivations alot
better.
 DL> Earlier today I took the kids and went out while Ron talked with
 DL> David. They were able to resolve some things and come to and
 RF> I am glad that they were able to resolve some things.  Somethings may
 RF> not get resolved until David has a family of his own (which I hope he
 RF> doesn't jump into until he is ready).  David will mature on his own
David reassured his father that this won't happen... time will tell.
 RF> too.  Liking his girlfriend will make the relationship for all of you
 RF> alot easier too.
Yes, it does. Even though she is here constantly! I don't think they have
spent one evening apart in 2 months.
 DL> As for myself... I'm feeling rather overwhelmed right now.
 RF>
 RF> I can understand that.  I remember the first time my daughter decided
 RF> to move out with a friend.  I thought for sure she could not do it by
 RF> herself. I also felt like I was not needed anymore.  I was wrong of
 RF> course.  I knew it was for the best, but I just didn't want to let go.
 RF> I'm glad I did though.  It turned out well.
That's very good. :)
Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed because I didn't think this day would come.
In some ways it's like relief... Ron and I can get to the business at hand,
Cory and his ADHD and Brienne who is quite the precocious child!!! In other
ways, well, I can't quite find the right words for it.
 RF> This is only my opinion, it may seem harsh, but sometimes harsh
 RF> lessons make the best children.  Good Luck.
 DL> It's not harsh. And thankyou.
 RF> Go ahead and keep talking to us if you feel overwhelmed.  I know all
 RF> of what is going on is not easy.
AND different. Just another hurdle of life, I guess. :)
Desiree
... Back to reality....now where exactly did I put it.....
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