-=> Quoting Desiree Louvre to Regina Finan <=-
 -=> While eating Chocolate, Desiree had this to say: <=-
 
 
 RF> forth.  They have to make the choices at that age.  We may hate them,
 DL> I can never say that no matter how mad I have been with David that it
 DL> has never come down to hating him. I have gotten awfully angry with
 DL> him, but no different than if Cory was 18 right now and pulling the
 DL> same things with a younger sibling.
 
 I was not implying hating the child, merely their inappropriate behavior.
 I guess, sometimes coffee doesn't wake me up enough to put my statements
 in proper words.
 RF> we may feel they are making the biggest mistake there is, but we have
 RF> to let them go.  At David's age he is hurting the little one more than
 DL> Ron has a problem with this... I told him to look at it as a new door.
 
 Alot of parents have a problem with this.  I did my daughter tried to
 make a choice of moving out at 17.  I had to let go.  It was a good choice
 for her.  Yes she made some bad mistakes, but by allowing her to make
 that choice and those mistakes, she grew into a remarkable person.  One I
 guess I thought she would never do.  And we became so close.  Which I also
 thought could never happen.
 RF> he knows, and he is old enough to take the consequences for his
 RF> actions. Let him know this.
 DL> Earlier today I took the kids and went out while Ron talked with
 DL> David. They were able to resolve some things and come to and
 DL> understanding and remain friends. Ron decided it was time David was on
 DL> his own, so April 15th or thereabouts he will be moving out with his
 DL> girlfriend into their own place. The two of them have been planning
 DL> this for a while. The blessing is that both Ron and I like his
 DL> girlfriend and she seems to have a good head on her shoulders.
 I am glad that they were able to resolve some things.  Somethings may
 not get resolved until David has a family of his own (which I hope he
 doesn't jump into until he is ready).  David will mature on his own
 too.  Liking his girlfriend will make the relationship for all of you
 alot easier too.
 DL> Time will tell.
 DL> As for myself... I'm feeling rather overwhelmed right now.
 
 I can understand that.  I remember the first time my daughter decided to
 move out with a friend.  I thought for sure she could not do it by herself.
 I also felt like I was not needed anymore.  I was wrong of course.  I knew
 it was for the best, but I just didn't want to let go.  I'm glad I did
 though.  It turned out well.
 RF> This is only my opinion, it may seem harsh, but sometimes harsh
 RF> lessons make the best children.  Good Luck.
 DL> It's not harsh. And thankyou.
 Go ahead and keep talking to us if you feel overwhelmed.  I know all of
 what is going on is not easy.
 DL> Take care,
 Regina
... "Yield to temptation, it may not pass your way again." - L. Long
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