-=> While eating Chocolate, Desiree had this to say: <=-
 RF> Also, either he dislikes his brother alot or (and this is the one I
 RF> suspect) he is trying desperately to keep his brother from making the
 RF> same mistakes as himself.  He is probably trying to make him a better
 RF> person than himself.  Not that I agree to what he is doing mind you.
No it's more like he likes the feeling that authority gives him... even
though his father and I didn't relinquish any.
 RF> If it were me, I would probably give him ultimatums.  First off, you
 RF> say he is going to school.  Is this high school?  You may try writing
 RF> a contract with him telling him to abide by the rules or get out.  I
 RF> am a firm believer in this rule at that age.  My children all know
 RF> they have to move at 18.  Unless they are in school.  If they are not
 RF> (even if they quit at 16) they will then need to get a job and pay
 RF> rent and so forth.  I intend not to be easy on them as the world
 RF> outside is not easy.
We had been all through this one too! :(
 RF> forth.  They have to make the choices at that age.  We may hate them,
I can never say that no matter how mad I have been with David that it
has never come down to hating him. I have gotten awfully angry with him,
but no different than if Cory was 18 right now and pulling the same things
with a younger sibling.
 RF> we may feel they are making the biggest mistake there is, but we have
 RF> to let them go.  At David's age he is hurting the little one more than
Ron has a problem with this... I told him to look at it as a new door.
 RF> he knows, and he is old enough to take the consequences for his
 RF> actions. Let him know this.
Earlier today I took the kids and went out while Ron talked with David.
They were able to resolve some things and come to and understanding and
remain friends. Ron decided it was time David was on his own, so April
15th or thereabouts he will be moving out with his girlfriend into their
own place. The two of them have been planning this for a while. The
blessing is that both Ron and I like his girlfriend and she seems to
have a good head on her shoulders.
Time will tell.
As for myself... I'm feeling rather overwhelmed right now.
 RF> This is only my opinion, it may seem harsh, but sometimes harsh
 RF> lessons make the best children.  Good Luck.
It's not harsh. And thankyou.
Take care,
Desiree
... If you don't run your own life, somebody else will.
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