Hi all...
I wonder if anyone has any suggestions for this problem we've been having
in regards to the way our 18 year old bosses around my 7 year old who is
ADHD.
David (the 18 year old) likes to throw his weight around especially when
it comes to Cory (the 7 year old). When we are trying to discipline Cory
for something David feels it is his 'right' to get his 2 cents worth in
also. It gets extremely irritating, not to mention that Cory now feels
like everyone is picking on him and bossing him around. We have told
David repeatedly to butt out and that the discipline is up to his father
and I AND when it comes right down to it, it is none of his business
why Cory got into trouble in the first place. He doesn't see the problem.
Some mornings around here get ballistic when I have told David to just
worry about getting himself ready for school and mind his own business.
HIS behavior disrupts the whole household, sometimes *more* than Cory's
does. My anxiety is what is all of this doing to Cory???? I know how he
feels because he has no problems expressing this, especially when he gets
frustrated. David won't lay off. The other part of the problem is David
has all these rules he expects Cory to abide by... one of them being that
Cory has to knock first before he goes into David's room. This rule is
not the problem... the problem is David doesn't follow his own rules. He
never knocks before entering Cory's room, or mine for that matter. We
can't have him babysit a whole lot because he always ends up banishing
Cory to his room the whole time we are gone. If Cory doesn't move fast
enough for David's liking, such as the day the sitter told Cory to shut
off the Sega... when he didn't respond right away, (David happened to be
home sick that day), David figured the sitter wasn't going to do anything
about it and got in Cory's face and started yelling at him. By the time
I got home Cory was so upset he fell asleep. (He does this when he gets
highly emotional and frustrated.) David also treats his sister alot nicer
and kinder than Cory. Always. If she does the same 'misdemeanor' as Cory,
David will pass it off and even when he doesn't he chastises her alot
more nicely than he does Cory. I, personally would rather him not try
to discipline either one of the younger two in the first place, but my
talking, demanding and finally ranting hasn't gotten this problem fixed.
Any suggestions... other than kicking out the 18 year old. He's planning
on moving out with his girlfriend sometime in April (if the relationship
lasts that long), but in the meantime, he will still be here throwing his
weight around.
Desiree
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