JL>Re - Partners in Healing - that is for sure.  In fact there
JL>is an echo 
JL>on Fido for it - SIP_SSAS which is Spouses of sexual abuse
JL>survivors.
JL>I've heard a lot of stories of this on that echo.
JL>(Where the husband or wife or partner of an abused survivor -
JL>a real 
JL>one - is suddenly accused of being abusive by the survivor
JL>who is 
JL>trying to recover)
  
Thanks for drawing my attention to SIP_SSAS.  If I can locate someone 
knowledgable about literature and research it would be quite usefull.  The 
professional knowledge is certainly not wide spread.
JL>Re - the much over-worked flashback - I have had them, they
JL>are real, 
JL>but in my experience not a detailed thing, but more like
JL>memories of 
JL>FEELINGS (awful ones) I don't know if this is true for
JL>everyone or not,
JL>but that is how I experience it.
JL>Many therapists believe that if they've read the book COURAGE
JL>TO HEAL 
JL>it makes them a specialist in survival issues.  It does not.
Spotaneously refeeling a strong emotion may be a more common event than 
"therapists" recognize.  It may be the result of a false correlation that 
flashback have come to be indicators of "post traumatic stress disorder."  
Reading your description is something I recognize from my personal 
experiences.  I have such experiences frequently--intense grief, regret, 
embarrassement, fear--all associated with identifiable events whose visual 
component are not as intense.  Not all such refeelings are painfull!  I can 
remeber a weekend...OOOOO...well, I had better not relive that here.  I hope 
you have some good refeelings, too.
--- GEcho 1.11+
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