Judith Labonte wrote in a message to Roger Brown:
 JL> Re - Partners in Healing - that is for sure.  In fact there
 JL> is an echo  on Fido for it - SIP_SSAS which is Spouses of
 JL> sexual abuse survivors. I've heard a lot of stories of this
 JL> on that echo.
 JL> (Where the husband or wife or partner of an abused survivor
 JL> - a real  one - is suddenly accused of being abusive by the
 JL> survivor who is  trying to recover)
I know a lot about that echo. My husband started it. He had to have a place 
to deal with his issues about my abuse. And yes, sometimes a survivor does 
act that way. I did. In someways I thought he was abusive...not physically, 
sexually, but just by the very fact he wanted me to talk to him about it.
My thinking....I thought he was intruding on my feelings, my thoughts, my 
abuse....I know NOW it wasn't right, but I didn't then. 
I'm glad there is an echo for the spouses....they needed one.
Take Care,
      Barb
--- Where Friends Meet!!
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