WB> Marie you sound like a real testimonial to all parents every where.
 WB> Keep up the real good work. I will certainly be taking more time to
 WB> chat with you in the near future. Glad you liked that bit about share
 WB> the wealth and just perhaps offer some in return. I will probably catch
 WB> some flak for the size of this quote but that's okay with me because
 WB> this is a matter that is really interesting and seriously important to
 WB> me. I love my son and don't want to see any bad come to him. I do admit
 WB> to having some human weakness when it comes to patience with him at
 WB> times. This doesn't mean that I hit him or anything abusive so don't
 WB> add anything to my statement. It means that there are days when I
 WB> wonder if I shouldn't just admit that I can not fulfil the job of
 WB> being the right kind of parent to Chris and maybe he would be better
 WB> served else where. It always passes though and I keep on stroking..
 WB> Have a nice day. 
 Testimonial?....Testy, maybe...:) And as for sharing the wealth, well, it
 seems misery loves company...No, that is not true because while what we
 are going through may be challenging, the children are worth it...
 And I didn't have patience all the time either, I admit to swatting their
 backsides from time to time, because I am human...and can only handle so
 much, just like many other parents..but I cared, and still do, about my
 kids. There were time I could have given the whole bunch away to the nearest
 taker...it's just that no one *would* take...:) Somehow we managed..as they
 got older, it was a little bit better. The kids got a handle on their
 behaviour and used the talents that they had constructively. But I do think
 that if I had know about medication, I would have tried it. There were many
 times they didn't like themselves and perhaps that could have been helped
 by medicine...I don't know...And as for thinking I wasn't doing the right
 thing for them...Oh boy..were there *many* times I thought I was doing some
 thing wrong and that they may be better off somewhere else...but, the 
 thought passed when I thought of how we would all feel without each other..
 If you love him and you care, you are the right type of parent...
 Some of my grandchildren are on medicine and it seems to be helping them
 cope much better..they are more attentive and not as angry all the time..
 One of the great things about this echo is that all the parents here have
 gone through a great deal working with their children. And they are here
 to help others handle and understand their children...It is good to know
 that you are not alone...
 Marie
... There is serenity in Chaos, seek the eye of the hurricane.
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