In a note to me, you said...
MA>I would love to find a happy
MA>medium and I'm not talking about a cheerful new-age channeler or a
MA>joyful spiritualist, in this instance.  With no disrespect intended to
MA>these paths, I am talking about BALANCE.  That is what I find hard.
Yes,  for me it's either/or also...
MA>The issue is how to stop accepting unacceptable behavior, without
MA>crossing the line and becoming unacceptable myself.  For me, it is not
MA>an easy one.
Me either... I am fearful that if I call someone on something they have
said, they will either rip me apart verbally in front of others, or they
will laugh and not respect what I have to say... either way, it's a
lose/lose situation for me... what I have tried to do is when something
is said that offends me, I walk away...  I know that may the cowards way
out.. but for now, it's a start... 8-}
MA>Of course in some cases where I have good reason to believe I am not
MA>safe physically, I believe it is okay to do whatever I have to to keep
MA>my boundaries secure and to protect myself.
That is a whole different situation.. I wholeheartedly agree with you
there...
With all the programs that are available out there, I would suspect that
the majority of them also have problems finding an even balance... I
would guess that the majority of us have our ups and downs... it's
making our times in between them longer that is the goal... at least,
that's my idea of what I need to be doing... 8-}
Chow chow chow................for now..............Sharon Stevens.
 * SLMR 2.1a * The heart has prisons that intelligence can't unlock.
--- Maximus 2.02
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