Re- CODA - I dealt with a lot of my codependency and enabling "stuff" 
in Al-Anon, because, in my case, all three of the exes - 2 ex-husbands 
and one ex-lover - had an alcohol and/or drug problem active while I 
was with them and I grew up with a drug abusing (phenobarbitol) 
birth-mother.  So, for me, it seemed to be a good place to go.  I 
understand the Al-Anon methods of working on codependency.
Now I have an AA friend, whom I sponsor, who is in CODA - diving in 
with both feet to put it bluntly.   She calls me about AA stuff and she
calls me about CODA issues too.  
So what would help me to help her is to know how close CODA is to 
Al-Anon.  Does my Al-Anon experience allow me to help sponsor her 
through the CODA stuff?  Or should she get a CODA sponsor too?  (There 
may not be any available, as this is a new group - and I gather it has 
mostly new members)
It seems like it would be all the same to me, except that she is not a 
codependent to an alcoholic or an addict - her significant other has 
other problems.
My approach has been, so far, as long as it seems to be working for 
both of us, to discuss it with her - i e  if it works, don't fix it.
Of course I am really annoyed with my husband right now, so I guess 
maybe I am not a power of example.  (My current spouse, thank goodness,
doesn't drink due to our religion - or take drugs, or smoke or use 
tobacco in any way or drink coffee or tea, etc)
And I know it is my own expectations and my sense of isolation (cabin 
fever) after being stuck in this house after one snow storm after 
another.  (Can we shoot if someone sings "White Xmas"?  Please?  Don't 
worry, I just use water pistols.)
Due to my physical disabilities - legal (NOT total) blindness and sever
athritis in my lower spine and elsewhere too - I have an extremely hard
time getting around in the snow.
And I am bored out of my gourd.
Oh well!  I don't have to like it, I just have to accept it.
Xmas, bah humbug.
(I am really rather seriously depressed this year - much worse than 
usual - and it worries me, but I don't know anything constructive I can
do about it off hand, that I haven't tried)
--- TriToss (tm) Professional 1.0 - (Unregistered)
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