FIFTY TIPS FOR MANAGING ADULT ADD
                       Interpersonal Life
     44. Make a good choice in a significant other. Obviously, this is
good advice for anyone. But it is striking how the adult with ADD can
thrive or flounder depending on the choice of mate.
     45. Learn to joke with yourself and others about your various
symptoms, from forgetfulness to getting lost all the time to being
tactless or impulsive. If you can bring a sense of humor to your
failings, others will forgive you much more quickly.
     46. Schedule activities with friends. Adhere to these schedules
faithfully. It is crucial for you to keep connected to other people.
     47. Find and join groups where you are liked, appreciated,
understood, enjoyed. Even more than most people, people with ADD take
great strength from group support.
     48. Don't stay too long where you *aren't* understood or
appreciated. Just as people with ADD gain a great deal from supportive
groups, they are particularly drained and demoralized by negative
groups, and they have a tendency to stay with them too long, vainly
trying to make things work out, even when all the evidence show they
can't.
     49. Pay compliments. Notice other people. In general, get social
training if you're having trouble getting along with people.
     50. Set social deadlines. Without deadlines and dates, your social
life can atrophy. Just as you will be helped by structuring your
business week, so, too, you will benefit from keeping your social
calendar organized. This will help you stay in touch with friends and
get the kind of social support you need.
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copyright 1992 by Edward H Hallowell and John J Ratey
 * SLMR 2.1a * There are three things I always forget. Names, faces...
--- I killed my WildCAT!
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