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-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 11-Jul-2015 20:59 <=-

 DAG> Re: Summer plans  was: shinies and sickies  was: camping
 DAG> By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 2015 19:44:06
 NB>> Now that's a major bummer...  and the construction itself makes it not
 NB>> so safe a place to be unattended, even in the parts not actually under
 NB>> construction...

 DAG> Yeah I feel pretty terrible about how much he's been inside lately.
 DAG> Especially since my Aikido fund got pirated by somebody that had a
 DAG> banking error who was depositing the checks that are made out to him
 DAG> but go to both of us.  :|

Ah, so that's how it happened... I might have guessed... :)  Being so
far behind, though, I can hope that things are starting to resolve
themselves by now...  :)   I'd guess that it wasn't an intentional
error, though, some people just aren't good at careful accounting... :|

 DAG> a lot.  Unfortunately that option is out as well.  I'm still looking
 DAG> for places, but my range is getting considerably farther out and making
 DAG> anything except vehicle travel to these places impossible.  I need a
 DAG> new laptop; having my one with a good battery isn't going to help much
 DAG> now that I realized that the wireless is out on it as well.  At least
 DAG> if I'm going to work while he's doing his frolicking. 

Lots of tangles to untangle... but hopefully a good solution can be
worked out...  :)

 NB>> I remember going to a small neighborhood library when we lived in PA...
 NB>> there wasn't a kids section per se, but there was an area where the
 NB>> kids' books were all kept together... I could walk there by myself (we
 NB>> moved there when I was going into 6th grade), and it was a preferred
 NB>> hangout..  ;)
 DAG> That was really what I was hoping for when I headed to the local
 DAG> branch here. Unfortunately, the local branches are miniscule, and the
 DAG> main location that does have all of that stuff that I'd like to take
 DAG> him to is buried in the inner city.  I mean, I guess we could take the
 DAG> bus once in awhile and stuff, but getting me to want to go into the
 DAG> inner city takes elephant tranquilizers or something. I fear and avoid
 DAG> it. 

Sounds to me as though perhaps you are expecting both too much of the
library and too much trouble from the inner city... Starting small with
the miniscule branch might not be the worst thing, and perhaps the inner
city isn't quite as bad as you fear...?  Of course, true, I don't know
the particulars of your town... but I do have some experience in
actually living in the "bad part" of town, and finding it not as scary
as purported...  :) 

 DAG> Good things to note about my son, though.  I'm trying to get out of
 DAG> this as fast as I can.  Before the financial debaucle happened, I
 DAG> thought I was getting over a quarter, if not closer to a third, of the
 DAG> amount that I want to have before I can start considering relocating to
 DAG> a better location.  It happened quick.  Should happen even quicker when
 DAG> I'm making the same wages and getting repaid for that, I suppose.

As long as it's only temporary, it's best to not get too upset by it...
and hopefully, it won't happen again.... 
 
 NB>> For sure it gets easier when you have a more settled environment...  :)
 NB>> But behaviors can still be regulated, even when things are crowded and
 NB>> unsettled... A lot of the training is probably going to be on dealing
 NB>> with the situation as it is, and learning to self-manage... and praise
 NB>> when he copes well with things will help as much or more than the
 NB>> consequences of bad behavior... :)

 DAG> I think that I have more work in being engaged with him and figuring
 DAG> out some creative things than he does ahead of him there.  I've failed
 DAG> at that a little bit lately.  Something's taken the wind out of my
 DAG> sails a bit, and unfortunately I've allowed that to leave him on the
 DAG> playstation way too much. Time to correct that error and provide

True... there's training for yourself there, too... training yourself to
keep your balance despite the vagaries of life... so as to be able to
help him keep his balance...  :)

 DAG> something-- anything-- else, even if it's just neighborhood exploration
 DAG> walks and more runs with me.  That's part of it, my health got foul for
 DAG> a couple of days, so I haven't been able to go on my normal runs and
 DAG> routines that keep me grounded.  Plus I take Deschain along on his bike
 DAG> (now that he can't keep up running any more) when I'm going for runs
 DAG> and the like.  Tomorrow morning I'm going to make sure that I get up
 DAG> and start doing all of that again, even if I have to make some
 DAG> emergency toilet breaks along the way or whatever.  Pardon my level of
 DAG> detail. 

Hope things have gotten more back to normal by now...  :)

 DAG> Anyway, more soon.  I'm trying to dig myself out of this pit
 DAG> that I've ended up in; it's nearing some of the bipolar low territories
 DAG> that I'm familiar with from not being medicated.  :P  Getting to all of
 DAG> the correspondence is an integral part of this, at this point, I
 DAG> believe. Enough about my troubles.  ;)

Doesn't hurt to have someone to tell them to...  ;)  And correspondence
can help you keep your perspective... :)

ttyl      neb

... I am not unrealistically pessimistic, I am realistically paranoid.

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