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-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 13-May-2015 21:47 <=-

 NB>> You must have been anticipating my response to the previous message.  ;)
 DAG> Well I was feeling gung ho about it at the time, but things have
 DAG> gotten to a state where I'm really not feeling the extra motivation
 DAG> right now.  Besides, if the guy was just making some mistakes out of
 DAG> the box, I don't want to pound a nail in his coffin there.  Weird how
 DAG> my point of view has changed now that I've got better income. :)

Well, I suppose with better income outside of that job, you have a lot
less hide in the issuer... ;)  And, I suppose also that if he hasn't
improved any since, others will probably do the complaining up the
scale... :)

 NB>> If they don't offer, or even that job doesn't pan out, there is still
 NB>> volunteering... if you were to volunteer at, say, a rescue mission, you
 NB>> might also gain/keep a healthy perspective on your own situation... ;)
 DAG> Definitely doing a Free Geek shift soon.  :)  I've been thinking a
 DAG> bit, as well, about volunteering at a shelter though, too.  I've been
 DAG> _in_ that situation before, but not in an urban area.  I think you're
 DAG> right it may damn well put some much needed perspective on my
 DAG> situation.  It's been awhile since I even has an ear to the ground near
 DAG> such things.  The last work I did in a setting like that was as an
 DAG> intake specialist helping people like that out with cash grants.

Seeing the people without any "feet" makes one less grumpy about not
having "shoes"...  ;)  Years ago, I was an income maintenance worker for
DSS... one does learn to appreciate what one does have, as well as learn
more compassion for those with a lot less...  :)
 
 NB>> Kids in general tend to be masters at manipulation... give in once, and
 NB>> they'll try to make it happen again...  one just has to stand firm...
 NB>> every time... ;)  And if one does appear to be giving in, one should
 NB>> explain why and in what way(s) this help is different from just doing it
 NB>> for them...  ;)  He knows that you want him to look good as well as do
 NB>> well... so you may have to (seemingly continually) explain to him the
 NB>> difference, and how his doing it well on his own is much better all
 NB>> around, at least in the long run...  Not that he'll act like he gets it,
 NB>> but eventually it sinks in... :)
 DAG> That's pretty much what I do.  :)  I get compliments on my extensive
 DAG> explanations for the reasons behind things to him all the time.  It's
 DAG> a really nice bit of feedback to get, especially when things are low.

Reinforcement that you are doing your job, and doing it well..  :)
 
 NB>> And priorities can shift, as pressing things come into play.  Currently,
 NB>> I've been spending a fair bit of time with my mom in the hospital.. She
 NB>> normally lives with one of my sisters, and there's another sister
 NB>> besides me here somewhat locally, so all of us have been spending a lot
 NB>> of time, trying to keep one of us (or a trusted friend) there around the
 NB>> clock.  :)  Doesn't help my schedule any that the hospital is almost an
 NB>> hour away from home for me, either... ;)  She is going home this
 NB>> afternoon, so things will mitigate slightly, since there will be more
 NB>> options for coverage once she's back home.  :)  Anyway... message
 NB>> writing had to be relegated to bits of time found amongst the
 NB>> leftovers...  
 DAG> I'm terribly sorry to hear that your mom was in the hospital. 
 DAG> Medical issues are always bogus.  I hope that y'all were able to make
 DAG> her time in there somewhat more tolerable. 

It seemed to have been helpful... she had very little delirium, which is
a major risk especially for the elderly in a stressful environment...
and she is improving steadily now that she is home.  She had to have
emergency bowel surgery, fortunately not worst-case scenario, and the
surgeon was quite happy with how she progressed afterwards... Maybe now
she won't keep having some of the bowel issues she was having...

 DAG> For certain do not worry in the slightest about packets taking
 DAG> awhile to trickle back out.  As always, IRL is more important,
 DAG> especially when it's family.  I hope that things are doing better
 DAG> in that situation, and wish you & yours the best. 

Thank you very much.  :)  I don't worry... just try to get the the
packets when possible... This week the issue, beyond still being part of
"Mommy-care", is that I was away over the weekend for a niece's wedding,
in PA near Pittsburgh... and this coming weekend, I have another trip
coming up, slightly longer... and no online access while away,
either....  ;)  RL always takes precedence where necessary...  ;)

ttyl           neb

... Murphy's Philosophy: smile -- tomorrow will be worse.

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