Harriet Levy wrote in a message to Sue Alexander:
 SA> Unfortunately, caring too much can be as much of a trap as caring
 SA> too little.  The biggest problem in caring too much is that all care
 SA> eventually comes to a point where nothing more can be done.  If a
 SA> practitioner goes through these kinds of losses every day or every
 SA> week with people they have come to love, the practitioner burns out
 SA> emotionally and can be damaged.  Perhaps a balance point needs to be
 SA> found...
 HL> I think the balance is to not give up caring, but not to be attached
 HL> to  the results.  It's in thinking that any human being can know the
 HL> true  path for another, that trouble happens.
     This sounds like a very reasonable base to make further decisions 
concerning your path.
HL> long time.  That may  change.  My challenge is to stay away from
HL> thinking I know what is best  for her.
     As they say, the first step to solving a problem is recognizing the 
problem.  If you can see this as a real problem to be avoided, I think you 
will do OK.
     Best of luck to you and to her...
     Sue
... You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him walk on it!-GL
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