In article ,
 dg411{at}FreeNet.Carleton.CA (Andre Lieven) wrote:

>  (mark_sobolewski{at}yahoo.com) writes:
> > Andre Lieven wrote:
> >> Mark Sobolewski (mark_sobolewski{at}yahoo.com) writes:
> >
> >> > There is something to be said for the situation: She's
> >> > desperate and for men who may not be "grade A" material,
> >> > it's a bargain market.  He would have to be careful
> >> > just like anytime you pick up discarded goods, but
> >> > the potential is there.
> >>
> >> Of course. The thing to bear in mind, in such a situation,
> >> is that the other, who might feel they are " settling
", might
> >> later on, act on that feeling. Hello, divorce.
> >
> > But we're talking about women here, yes? :-)  Women have
> > feelings that often have little to do with their actions later.
>
> Indeed, and I acknowledged that, by my comment about divorces
> later. In one did think well ahead, one would not marry a
> person one had to " settle " for.
>
> > Going back in time, if I was to marry one of the career
> > women I dated, I would have required her to put the
> > property in my name and deposit all of the funds
> > into an account I control.  Would that make you
> > feel safe?
>
> No. See " Family Court & Law ". It invalidates, legally, such
> maneouvers.

Agreed.  You wouldn't be perfectly safe but she would
think twice before moving against you, eh?  If you've
moved the assets properly into a trust then they
are largely untouchable.  I kid you not. OJ did something
similar.  You don't think he goes golfing all day
on his Social Security, do you?

> > Yes, it sounds pretty incredible, doesn't it?  Especially
> > when these women CRAVED men to take them out
> > and pay for dinner.  But that's just it: As long as the man
> > handles the money, even if they earn it, they get
> > their "feelings" of traditionalism satisfied.  On the contrary,
> > a man putting them in their place probably makes
> > them happy more than anything...
>
> Indeed. Many modern women cannot respect a man that they can
> get, and cannot get any man they might be able to respect.
> Ergo, settling. Ergo, many divorces, 70+% chosen by the women.

I talked with such a woman who had divorced her husband
and he turned out to be everything women would want:
Good looking, good income, etc.

I suspect that the spinster syndrome for such women is
probably due more to the women's personality turning
men off in general than just about them being
too fussy (although that doesn't help matters.)

regards,
Mark Sobolewski


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