Excuse me, but I don't need anyone patrolling my messages to other users.
I happen to be very interested in how things develop with those who search
and who reach closed doors.   I was also writing to Michael Holt; not you.
As for the information on the meetings; you again are second guessing.  I 
happen to NOT GO to the adoption support meetings for personal reasons that
DO NOT include anyone in that group; or the purpose of the group.  That is
why I wrote to Michael anyway; as the meeting is on REJECTION; which if you
care to know - is what Michael was dealing with.    My purpose in going to
the meetings was for  support; or I would of had no reason to continue. I can
help persons search without a formalized meeting; as I was doing long before
I began going to  PAIS.  This group was merely a support group for adoptees
who not only needed support in dealing with being "an adoptee" but help in
search support issues; not how to search.  The books are full of information 
on how to search.  The support needed in searching, Ron Deal; is similar to
the support you needed; but have clearly forgotten about.  Do you not 
emember
the frustration you reached when trying an avenue; only to find out that it
was the wrong one??? Also, when it seemed there was nothing else to do; the
many phone calls that you made to me; saying " what do we do now".  Yes,
searching entails encouragement; brainstorming and just giving hope that it
can be done;  NEVER TO GIVE UP.   As for persons not going to the meetings;
it is because people FIND now; and don't come back to share their progress.
This is certainly typical; as many persons are simply looking for closure
to their position in the adoptive triangle.   I happen to know why GP
did not come back; it was taking too much time  from his family; and when
a person gets in gear to help others; sometimes they don't look around to
see that their family is left out.   This RON DEAL is  what happened to me
and WHY I don't go to the meetings.  While I was helping; with sincere
heartfelt energy; striving to help persons find closure in their life;
my personal life was affected greatly.  I made a commitment to myself;
that I would put searching on a shelf for awhile; except for those that
call for advice or encouragement; to prove to someone very important in my
life that I deeply cared for them.  Yes, Ron I had tunnel vision; all I could
see were the needs of those in the group as well as the tons who called my
home. Ironic as it may be; sometimes we help others and hurt ourself. THis
is what I did.    The note to Michael entailed other themes that were written
to him in genuine interest; which after I wrote them realized, it was on the
adoption board. You have no business interferring with others the way you do;
and hopefully the moderator will accept my apologies for including chit chat
in my message to Michael Holt; and at the same time - I hope he will see that
you are constantly writing vehement messages to other users of this board;
and as the persons in the group bowed out; the persons that were once using
this board; also bowed out because of you.  What a shame that you can't
realize that EVERYONE has an opinion; and just because it conflicts with
yours; they do not need to be chewed up and spit out. You did this to
DeANNE Hardy; and it was the moderator's position to correct her tactfully
which he did. You on the other hand continued to "ride her case" as well
as a few others.  Look at your  messages back about a month ago; you should 
feel proud of your BIG DEAL attitude. It stinks.....
If Michael  Holt wants to write a message to me; it is none of your
business.
PS   Stop reading between the lines and making unfounded; ignorant 
tatements.
As others have done; I guess the moderator needs to let you TAKE OVER as 
nearly everyone else are merely "reading only" as you won't stay out of
their business.
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