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 Sh> Higher Energy that you can trust.  A truly loving Source can add to
 Sh> your feelings of strength, self-value, and protection if you need to
 Sh> break free. 
 Sh> If you decide to exit from the reality where you have become enslaved
 Sh> by darker energies, you must be strong.  You will need to be 100% clear
 Sh> with the person or entity and demand a final, permanent severing of all
 Sh> ties to them.  It can be hard to feel completely confident and clear
 Sh> about your choice.  Remember, you have been under their influence for
 Sh> some time, and your reasoning may have been muddled for a while.  Be
 Sh> prepared for the person or entity to exert strong pressure on you to
 Sh> change your mind. They will probably say things like:
 Sh> 1) "You've really got a problem."
 Sh> 2)  "You are under psychic attack -- these are bad energies speaking
 Sh> through you."
 Sh> 3)  "You have really harmed me.  I expected better of you than this."
 Sh> A dark-energied person will not be above trying to make things very
 Sh> hard for you on the material plane, spreading bad words about you to
 Sh> people that you both know, trying to turn other people against you,
 Sh> even interfering with your career progression if possible.  On a
 Sh> psychic level, they may transmit their energies to you under the guise
 Sh> of peace (you'll have dreams in which they seem charming and wonderful
 Sh> and you forget what has happened, or you'll suddenly feel their energy
 Sh> during the day and it will be powerful and commanding).  
 Sh> Do not be afraid to get therapy, to join with others in worship of a
 Sh> loving God, or to seek spiritual counseling.  Others are out there in
 Sh> a Light-filled, joyful reality who would love your company and add
 Sh> loads of affirmation to your recent journey.
Hello Sh,
I have snipped a good deal of your excellent post due to the demands of
my mail-reader. I am going to comment from the viewpoint of addiction.
This is because addiction is a commonly understood concept and practical
because everyone has them. Someone who claims to have no addictions is
operating from denial even if they seem to be sincere.
Your post is pretty close to what a competent therapist would have
written about the symptoms of love addiction. This is related to
codependency. I like the definition of Anne Wilson Schaef which portrays
codependency in terms of relationship, romance, and sex addictions.
Among New Age peoples, which many in this forum find themselves, their
is a concentration of sex addicts tending to be male and romance addicts,
tending to be female. They seem to be subconsciously attracted to form
relationships. Often the male SA will place demands upon the female RA.
She tends to comply with these demands even though they make her feel
uncomfortable; so there is lack of empowerment as well as a threat of
withdrawal or distancing from the male charismatic (romantic) energy
which feeds her R addiction. RA is not met only sexually but by places
or things. Such as fantasies about meeting Babaji or his sister in India.
Or a person acting as a source of esoteric wisdom. This is behind the
myth (archetypal energy) of Merlin and imprisonment by a young witch.
A female RA often becomes coaddict to a male SA counterpart. Then many
of the behaviors you described arise in their conflict of primary motive.
This view obviates the need to postulate dark entities. It is behavior
engendered by our dysfunctional society. Everyone has fear/fears which
at are at the root of all addictions. I think the fear of intimacy is
prevalent in an RA/SA relationship. Sometimes, often enough to be
mentioned in psychology books, a person will seek to end the repetition
of pain found in such relationships. Thus, they turn to a supposed
spiritual path of devotion to God. They become celibate and think they
have found a way of avoiding painful relationships. They think they
are making a choice (I've done this) and can find happiness in divine
friendships. But the difficulties of intimacy are never as pronounced
in a friendship as in a relationship. So the mastery of the fear which
has created the original problem with intimacy is never dealt with. And
how can you become God-realized, unconditionally loving meaning without
fear, when a person still contains the unresolved fear of intimacy?
Lessons are not learned by turning to a frictionless Higher Power. That
is the easier softer way characteristic of addictive thinking solutions.
I felt your test questions were good goodlines but should not be taken
as strict rules. Much depends on the motive. There are sincere compliments
given by friends which show appreciation. And spiritual advice is also
a necessity among friends. That is why you posted your concerns about
certain New Age friends and their attraction to ascension beliefs. The
difference in motive is that you were not trying to manipulate, and that
is something that needs to be discerned. Perhaps you meant this as well
since it is impossible to cover all bases in a single post. Therapy
tends to be extreme in order to break compulsions, especially at the
beginning. I think it was Pia Melody who said of codependency : 'if you
are complaining or explaining then you are in the disease'. But can
you imagine a world in which noone explained anything because they
thought they were violating a recovery principle? So I think that once
a person has made some progress in recovery from addiction that the
mandates necessary at the outset should be maintained in a balanced way.
There is a saying that any virtue taken to an extreme becomes a vice.
Some things depend on the situation. For instance: 'you have harmed me'
None of us are perfect. We do harm others. A person can legitimately
say you have harmed me if we have. Some of these New Age and Psych
truisms can be used as tools to avoid facing responsibility for error.
Live Long and Prosper,
Stephen
... From Isaiah, make straight thine path before me.    
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