On 03 Jan 97  16:29:22, Sharon Coyne said the following to Linda Allard:
SC> LA>SC>         Right now, I don't know what questions to ask since the 
firs
SC> LA>SC> letter wasn't responded to and the other refused. I can't force 
them
SC> LA>SC> me. I am open for as many suggestions as possible though.
SC> 
SC> LA>Right now what I can suggest is maybe to get a "third" party involved,
SC> LA>someone who is neutral to both you and your birth father.  This person 
c
SC> LA>approach him and tell him what you want or don't want.  It may be the
SC> LA>easiest way as this person could express why you want to meet him etc.
SC> 
SC>         I thought of that from the beginning and sometimes wish I would
SC>         have done it. I have a friend who offered to do just that. I
SC>         guess she wouldn't be neutral though, but I know she would be
SC>         honest and trustworthy. The only thing I want is to meet him and
SC>         find out if he is indeed my birthfather. If he is, then all I
SC>         want is a chance to get to know him. I don't plan to try to take
SC>         him away from his family or get anything other than friendship
SC>         from him, and hopefully the rest of the family.
That sounds reasonable enough to me.  Maybe you should let your friend
intervene for you... You never know it just may do the trick..
Let me know how it all works out...
Best of luck.
Linda
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