> SC>        I have some serious thinking to do now. Does
 > anyone have any
 > SC>ideas for me.
 >
 > SC>        Sitting here with tears in my eyes. :-(
 >
 > Sharon, he may be very fearful of facing his past.  He may
 > be going
 > through all sorts of emotions ..... Take it easy and be
 > patient.
 
        That is exactly some of what I've been thinking. Also, he 
may not even remember my mom. That was 50 years ago and it was a short 
aquaintence. I'm ready to leave it to God to guide me and my birthfather.
 
 
 >
 > Meanwhile, find out if you can if he is a member of a local
 > church.
 > Maybe there is a Pastor or someone there who can approach
 > him
 > privately and with compassion ask for at least on meeting,
 > even
 > moderated, so that you both can put the past to rest.
 
        I thought of that in the beginning, but he may not want a 
pastor to know as he may think it will him look bad in the eyes of the 
church. I am thinking about contacting another family member sometime in the 
future. I don't know.
 
 
 > Don't give up ..... look at other options and take your
 > time.  As a
 > birth parent and an adoptee I can feel from both angles
 > and I understand
 > where you come from and where he comes from ..... give it
 > time ....
        Thank you for your kindness and understanding. I will consider 
all options before I act again.
 
 
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