SC>birthfather, since he never knew about me. My mom refused to tell him that
SC>she was pregnant and her family went along with her wishes very
Hm.  I am just curious on your opinion of a somewhat simliar situation.  My 
boyfriend's best friend developed a relationship with a girl 3 years ago. 
(Back then, he was 25, she was just barely 18).  I'll say her name is Shonna, 
for privacy's sake & his name is Bob.
A few weeks before Shonna met Bob, she went to a party, got drunk, & had sex 
with someone she barely knew.  By the time she found out she was pregnant, 
she was going out with Bob.  He decided to marry Shonna & raise the child as 
his.
They are very much in love still.  The child is a girl, they've had a boy, & 
another bun is in the oven.  :-)  Bob & Shonna are the proverbial struggling, 
young couple, but things are working out well.
I think Bob was very noble in immediately accepting Shonna's baby as his. 
However, the family (including my boyfriend & myself) are sworn to never tell 
the little girl that Bob is not her b-father.
I think this is wrong.  At the time, Shonna could have contacted the b-father 
to at least make him aware that he has a child on this earth.  But she didn't 
and Bob didn't want to pursue it --- he is happy calling the little girl his 
very own little girl.  By now, Shonna has lost track of that man which is 
just fine with everyone.
Bob & Shonna are devoted, wonderful parents.  This isn't a dark thing or a 
bad thing, but it's still a secret (which I will keep from the little girl) & 
I just think it's wrong to not tell her --- not even when she's older.
What do you think??
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