-=> Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-06-16  09:54 <=-

 JS>> Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have
 JS>> matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and
 JS>> his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks
 JS>> exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he
 JS>> was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste
 JS>> testing everything in the fridge.  Seems HIS son does
the same thing
 JS>> now that he is the same age.
 NB>> Now that's funny...  :)  And neat...  :)  How old was he when he was
 NB>> taken out of your life...?

 JS> Shortly after that as a matter of fact. 

So that would have been one of your last memories of him, too...

 JS> I had some idea for a time
 JS> what state he might have been in. And checked with everyone (Including
 JS> agencies) that I could think of. I don't want to get too negative here
 JS> but soon after mommy and daddy parted ways. I didn't hear from her at
 JS> all as to where she was or how she and my son were doing. I recently
 JS> found out that he entered a foster home at some point thereafter. And
 JS> was eventually adopted by someone else. Sorry, Nancy but THAT is what
 JS> gets me the most. I will stop here as I don't believe in parent
 JS> bashing regardless of what my feelings are.

It all sounds very hurtful, all around...  And you are right, parent
bashing serves no useful purpose, in any case... 

 JS> The main thing as I see it Nancy is that we are in contact NOW and we
 JS> both are open to starting/rebuilding a relationship. I have made a
 JS> point of being honest to my son and his questions. Regardless of own
 JS> personal feelings I have avoided expressing them to my son regarding
 JS> his mother. I want him to form his own opinion unaffected by my
 JS> attitude.   

Sounds as though he might have similar feelings to yours by this
point... but in any case, the past can't be changed... and it's good to
be growing the relationship with your son and his family now...  :)

ttyl          neb

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